• Make up. What's it all about, anyway? •

I recently had a very interesting conversation with 

a male friend of mine who asked me why girls

 wear make up to impress boys when boys don't

 really like girls to wear make up.

And, to begin with, there are so many 

things wrong with that question already.

Now, I have his permission to write out the argument on here, but as the conversation went on for about an hour and a half (and I can't remember word for word what we both said), most of this will be done by memory. The general gist of it is this; (male friend) "girls wear make up to impress boys" (me) "girls wear make up for themselves". But for the sake of giving a balanced argument, I will attempt to write it out in a more interesting, holistic, coherent way for you. Please note: I don't mean to offend anyone, these are just my opinions so please don't feel like you have to agree with me and please don't feel like I speak for everyone - this is just how I feel.

Why I wear make up
I've mentioned on here before that from about the age of 14, I was very interested in make up. Looking back, however, I was interested in it for all of the wrong reasons (in my opinion). I used to wear it to cover up my acne and yes, to attract and impress boys. Yet, I was a child, and I'm sure I'm not the only one who caked their face in Maybelline Dream Matte Mousse and eyes in black kohl liner. I was inexperienced, young and, unfortunately, brow-less (I'm sure people didn't start filling in their brows til at least 2006? Am I wrong? I'm probably wrong... but as a teen, I was never into it, and never noticed other people's fuller brows either!) Now I'm more confident, have grown into myself a bit more and I've learnt how to do my make up to suit my face shape and tone, I wear make up for me. I wear it because it makes me feel more confident, put together, 'finished off' and so that, basically, I feel nice. I literally love the ritual of putting it on in the morning, creating a mental to-do list in my head for the things I have to get on with for the day, and I love the concentration that goes into it all. I feel so relaxed when I'm doing my make up and I always look forward to it! Make up might not mean to you what it does to me, and everyone can have their own reasons for wearing it, and I'm not saying my reasons are right, but they are my reasons nonetheless.

The 'girls wear make up to impress boys' debate
My boyfriend comments on my appearance when I wear make up, and he comments on my appearance when I don't wear make up. This then tells me that he doesn't mind whether I do or I don't. And in turn this tells me that whether I wear make up or not, he won't be any more or any less impressed. So I wear make up to please myself and because I think I look nice with it on. My male friend was telling me that girls wear it purely to attract members of the opposite or same sex struck a chord with me and actually offended me. Why is everything centred around finding a boyfriend/girlfriend these days? Why is everyone so focussed on trying to please and attract potential lovers? Why can't we wear make up, do our hair properly and dress nice just so we feel a little better about ourselves? I personally have been on a night out wearing no make up at all, my hair in a bun and (God forbid) jeans and flats on, and did I feel like my night was any less fun than the other people I was with? No, not at all. People are so set on trying to attract other people that even applying make up is seen as provocative.

Beauty bloggers' lives evolve around make up!
My instagram is filled with photos of make up and selfies showing different make up looks, this is on my 'news feed' screen and also on the photos that I myself add. And so what? What the hell has it got to do with anyone else? If you don't want to see these photos, then don't follow me or any of the people that I follow. If you don't want me to tweet that I've just bought a new lipstick, then unfollow me. My friend was telling me that people become obsessed with make up and that it takes over their social media, and I told him that it's because we enjoy make up and it's a hobby, just as much as golfing or swimming is a hobby to other people. But do you judge someone who has photos of new golf clubs or new swimming trunks on their instagram? No. So how can you judge someone that has photos of the perfect winged liner or a lipstick dupe? This confuses me, honestly. I like the look of make up and packaging, so I pop it into my instagram. My life does not evolve around make up, and I don't think that checking someones social media can even tell you what their life evolves around, it just tells you what they're interested in at that certain point in time.

To end this rambly, honest and perhaps controversial post, I'm asking you if you agree or disagree with me. I'm curious, really, as to other people's opinions or if it's just me that thinks these things. I'm not crushing anyone, I'm not saying I disagree with every point my friend made, but I did disagree with the majority.

Let me know your thoughts!

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Daniela xo